Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy Paperback – October 18, 1989

I'm reading this for the second time, and it's even better the second time around. Reading the other reviews, I have nothing substantial to add, so I'll keep it short and sweet. This is one of the most directly useful, accessible, and clear books about how communication and relationships break down that I've encountered, and I've read a great many books on those subjects.This is not a glib, quick read, although even reading small portions of it can yield useful insights. This is a book that rewards reflection and real introspection on what is happening inside your head when you get upset with another human or yourself. I cannot recommend this book highly enough as a crash course in how to be conscious of the terribly destructive habits and patterns you bring to any relationship.

This is one of the best books ever written. There are a few books that have had a profound philosophical effect on my life and this is certainly one of them. Before this I couldn't get a love relationship to last more than 5 years but now I get along with everyone, including my family, much better and I've been in a loving relationship for 19 years. I got 2 other people to read it; one had just broken up with his girlfriend of 7 years and the other was in her 50's and had never had a relationship last more than a few years. Both almost immediately became happily married and have stayed that way for at least 10 years and counting, the first to the girlfriend he'd broken up with. I read it a few years into my current relationship when I was about to leave him maybe about 15 years ago. I'm overdue to read it again. I'd read a fair amount of cognitive psychology before this and bought it because of the author. It wasn't a quick and easy read because it was such a philosophical shift for me but reading it improved every aspect of my life. That's amazing for a book.

As a clinical social worker and marriage and family therapist, I do a lot of marriage counseling and couples work. I have found that Aaron Beck's 'Love is Never Enough' is the clearest and most effective book to use with couples. Additionally, it has the best outcome.Couples, under a therapist's guidance, can use this book together. It is easy to read, has great hand-outs and is pragmatic. It focuses on the day-to-day issues that many couples find themselves getting stuck on.While I think that couples could try to use this book themselves without a therapist's guidance, and are likely to benefit from it, this would apply only to couples who do not have serious issues. Couples with serious issues need to work with a therapist. A book alone is not sufficient.

Excellent Book. Very informative and helpful. This was an easy read with a lot of good information and helpful to me and others in my practice. Well written and writer stayed on subject.

Bought this book a few years ago, and read most of it at that time. Now, whenever I need a tune-up in my view and attitude (regards my marriage) I tend to open it again. Am a very happily married man of over 40 years marriage....and have a keen interest in this relationship invented by God. Have read a host of books on marriage over the decades, but this one is in a diff. catigory....it is a real jewel. Dr. Beck knows how our minds work, being an eng. I thought I had a clue too, but he shows that when our relationship is in stress we often think/act in the most illogical ways. He really helps me get my thinking back on track when I need it. Believe he has a great adv. over many writers in this field due to his background, years of exp. and also his long and successful marriage to the same woman.

Very well written and interesting point of views. It really delves into the basics of what a relationship needs for longevity. You can use the table of contents to find the areas that you need help on, but I found the whole book useful.

This book was recently republished but its contents strongly belong to the decade it was written. It has many lessons, but also the strong feel of the 70's asymmetrically divided power in marriage.I'm a big fan of ATB but I didn't like his therapeutic interventions in this book. Much of those felt like he was telling his clients what to do, and not the guided learning typical of CBT.

I've only skimmed this book, having bought it for our grandson & wife. But everywhere I read, it was right on. Using actual couples, he gives examples of various miscommunications, exercises to help, and pointers that were very helpful. I would recommend it to every couple starting out. It's information that no one teaches us in school or at home, yet can cause a relationship to fail needlessly if we are unaware.