The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed

It focuses on the basics of attraction, comfort, seduction , which is indispensable to learn ,to get abundance of girls in life ,if you read it, your results with women will get 10times better , highly recommend.

I would recommend this book to every boy who wish to have better social life and relationships. Aslo to improve himself

I totally agree with one of the other reviewers here when he say....this book isn't just about getting women in bed. It's much deeper than that.It's about what drives us, what makes us tick. It'll help you understand yourself.And guide you on how to be a more complete person.This book is a beautiful journey in self discovery.

There are a lot of negative reviews about this book, and for a while I avoided buying it because of these. I regret not reading this book sooner.Let me address each one...1) Methods outlined in this book are about lying your way into bed or are predatory...Uh, What? I think people that argue this seriously have not read the book. The 'mystery method' attempts to systematize dating. Being a geek, and writing a book for geeks - he breaks down the steps into (roughly, this is off memory):A1 - OpenA2 - Female to Male InterestA3 - Male to Female InterestC1 - ConversationC2 - ConnectionC3 - InitimacyS1 - ForeplayS2 - LMRS3 - SexHe argues that dating can be broken down into a repeatable process. I don't think this is predatory or weird. If you study Sales - pretty much all successful sales people follow a process. Contrary to popular belief, Sales isn't a grimy sleazy job - it's a real job to find solution to fit a buyers problem, and in the real world, in industry, any real companies will systematize it into a process.Well guess what, in dating you are to some extent a salesman. And you are selling yourself. Just like in the business world, not everyone is a suitable customer. But you won't just find that out by telepathy. You need to introduce yourself first, and see if there is attraction and comfort. I do not think it's predatory or sleazy or weird in any way to break this down into a repeatable process.I think some people don't like the idea of a memorized opener. I personally use what are called 'situational openers' or make a general comment based on the environment at hand when I walk up to meet someone. But I really don't see how it's a big deal if you need a 'prop' to introduce yourself. This isn't lying or mis-representing yourself. It's more like have an interesting line prepared to start a conversation. Guess what, people do this every day in the business world, and it's perfectly acceptable, and makes sense in the context of selling products. I don't view a person selling industrial microscopes as sleazy when he 'opens' with a line... It doesn't make him a liar. It's a prop used to start a conversation.Furthermore, he states several times in the book that he does NOT advocate lying, and that during the comfort building stages its important to be yourself and make a real connection with the other person. Finally, I don't think that sex is an evil goal. Most people establish physical intimacy at some point early on in their relationship. If you don't want to rush the sex part, then modify the process he's laid out and take it slower. He's presenting what he personally does, and I think it's totally fine that some people are ready and willing to have sex after a few dates, or after a long night out. I know many people like this who are honest people. You have to take the process and adapt it to your own needs.2) The method doesn't work and is snake oilI don't really agree with this either. I would say that about 90% of this book is tactical advice devoted toward the A1-A3 phases of opening and having that initial conversation. I watched some vids of the VH1 show after reading the book, and you can literally see him do everything he says and watch it work.The issue is, he has a *ton* of practice walking up to very attractive woman like its nothing and opening a conversation. Like 4 - 5 nights a week for many years. So he makes it look very, very easy. And in the book, I don't think he fully realizes how hard this is to do, especially when there are groups of people together. So basically I think he actually presents a lot of complex ways to 'open' conversations with people in groups. It gets especially complicated when he suggests merging groups at a bar or club.I would consider that stuff super advanced. But stick with the basics. I do think it's good advice that when you first walk in and see someone you'd like to talk to, to take about 3 seconds to drum up the chutzpah and just dive in. I also think it's reasonable if you're talking to a group to win over the girl's friends, and then chat with the girl.And he's completely right that once everyone is comfortable with you and you know the girl is attracted, pull her to a quiet corner of the bar (C1) and have a private conversation to establish more rapport.Just like with Sales, you're not going to miraculously land your very first sale. In the business world, people cold call scores, if not hundreds of clients, to land just one sale. When you are first starting out, you need to have this kind of mentality and put in the numbers and introduce yourself to a lot of people.It doesn't make you sleazy. If you personally don't have any standards and are willing to sleep with just anything then sure, you are a dirtbag. But if you are genuinely looking for a connection and you have to introduce yourself to god forbid a dozen women before you can really strike up a conversation and get a phone number, so what?I think most of the people that complain are simply not putting in the numbers. Again, in a sales position, people will make 20-50 cold calls, do 10 follows up, and try to close 1 client in a single day. I'm not suggesting you devote your life to just gaming women, but you got to put in the numbers.__________Some other general comments...Women do not get this book at all and think it's sleazy because its a highly rational approach to dating, and makes sense. Also because they never have to do outbound approaches.Again, my best analogy here is sales.In sales you basically have 4 types of sales people. Outbound Lead Qualification, Inbound Lead Qualification, Closers, Account Managers.For 95% of guys (unless you are a famous actor or something) you are going to be practicing outbound lead qual. You need to put in the numbers and open up a lot of women. If you don't like night clubs / bars, so what? Then adapt the method to meeting people in book stores. Or for online dating. But the basic *process* makes sense. You need to open a lot of women (A1-A3), qualify if they are a potential match for what you are looking for (C1 - C3), and close (S1 - S3).The reason women don't get this book is for most moderately attractive women, they've never really had to put themselves out there and walk up to a guy in a public place. From the time they are 16 to their late twenties, they get approached every day by interested guys - so they experience Inbound Sales - and they don't have to expend as much effort to generate these prospects. For better or worse guys do. And believe me, women get just as strategic about this stuff and share texts and such to all their friends and figure out their next actions in advance. They may not lay it out in a process, but generally speaking the average woman has probably had more practice than the average guy - simply because they are always being approached.A quick note about "Negs". Negs are not put downs - and if you actually read the book you would understand this. A lot of very attractive woman in a public setting will sometimes act aloof or like they are somehow 'better than you' for no other reason than the fact that they know they are physically good looking. If you disagree or don't know what I'm talking about, then I suggest you get out more. The Neg is basically a way to overtly demonstrate to the woman that you don't hold her on a pedestal or kiss her butt just because she's beautiful. It's a way to say, I don't really care that you're pretty, you're still a human like myself, and our interaction will be as equals. So starting off a conversation, and correctly pointing out (maybe as a joke, if it's true) that she's got an eye booger is an example of a "neg". Most guys would be too intimidated to point this out. The neg philosophy is basically, when you interact, make it clear you don't see her on a pedestal. Again, if you actually watch the videos of Mystery interacting with women, this is all he's doing. He's not insulting them or trying to attack their self esteem like many people argue here.Do you need this book to meet a girl or get laid? No, clearly not. But I do think it's a great framework to think about outbound approaches to woman and dating as a process. People that are more intuitive or thinking (Myers - Briggs) that struggle to understand dating dynamics would appreciate this book greatly. And in reality I think 90% of guys could benefit from reading this book.Here are my real criticisms though of the book.1) 90% of this book is geared towards openers, and even of this material, most of it is way too advanced for the average person. Mystery also suggests going out to night clubs and having these 4 - 10 hour nights out that ideally result in laying the girl.Most guys don't necessarily want this. First because it's simply not compatible with a working person's lifestyle to go out 4 nights a week and stay out till 5 am, and second because realistically, most girls will give out their phone number at best. So I think Mystery gets too focused on going for the same night lay, when most guys want a phone number and a date with a high quality girl.2) There's almost no discussion of actually going on dates Bang - by Roosh - does a way better job of going through 'middle game' or C1-C3 as Mystery calls it.3) Although Mystery does state this, I think it would be even better if he had approach statistics to show the reality, but dating really is a numbers game early on.There's actually a great Christian Dating book called - How to Get a Date Worth Keeping - by Dr. Cloud - who's written a number of Christian Dating books by the way.What's so interesting about it, is how similar their advice is. Cloud's book - approach a lot of women (or men) - he advises at least 5 / wk. Focus on just dating early on, don't try to get exclusive too early. Even the overall internal frame to have is very similarly presented between Cloud's book and Mystery's. Clearly Cloud doesn't advocate going for sex so early, but that's a personal choice.I think this book polarizes people because they choose to see something that's either there or not there based upon the fact that Mystery is a self proclaimed 'pickup artist' and it strikes a chord with people either in a very positive or very negative way.Get past all of that, and actually read the book for what it is. I think it's a great framework for dating and I'd recommend it to *anyone* - even a committed Christian with no intention of sleeping with a girl until marriage, just for the systematic process he presents for dating in general.

So does so much else. Look, I don't know what guy is coming to this book. I know I have a sister in college who is single and I'd prefer some guy picking her up with this method, than some of the lame things she's told me guys have tried to do. One guy sent her an email, "Can you handle me?" Really, men need some help in the proper way to capture a woman's attention and interest. As for me, I've been studying and studying the PUA's. Frankly, I find Logan Edwards two books, Secrets of the A Game and The Art of the Approach to be the most helpful in published PUA material, along with obviously The Game, and several books on influence and persuasion, including a few on covert hypnosis.As the months have passed as I've started to read and study this material and started to use it in the real world. I've come to the conclusion that you also have to look at your own personality. I am not someone that likes to dress up stupidly (I like to dress up most of the time in dark colors, usually suede and jeans and dress pants), I don't like clubs, and I don't mind not hitting on a girl if there's none that interest me. I agree with Mystery's fundamental reasoning and I believe you should practice, go out there, and work the magic. This book is great for opening sets. But when a woman's alone, I believe your better off with a more direct approach, having to not win over anyone except the woman. And if you don't want to bother opening a set, there's always the approach of, "Can I borrow your friend for two seconds (in a psychological study, 85% of people do not feel threatened by a time restraint of seconds)," express your attraction, or your interest in her. Tell her you'd like to keep talking to her, hand her your phone, and tell her to give you her number. This book is very much oriented to opening up groups of people, something that you don't see a lot of in bookstores, cafes, stores, and on the street (my hunting ground). It says that the mystery method works in the real world away from the club scene, and I've tried a few techniques and it certainly does, so I wouldn't consider it waste if you, like me, don't enjoy the club atmosphere.Like the stock market, where you have technical analysis and fundamental analysis, a mixture of the two, daytrading, investing, swing trading, and the such, in the pick-up community, you have Speed-Seduction, you have Indirect Game, you have Direct Game, and a mixture of any of them. The fact is that they all work, they can all be good, and they can all get you into bed with the type of women you desire. The first rule of PUA is "Never get invested in any single woman." Look, if you're buying this book with the hope of learning some trick to turn that "Friend" into your girlfriend, it's not here for the most part. There are some simple truths in the world, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder," so if you've fallen into the friend zone, break off the relationship, stop being there for her, and stop being her friend. "When you can't have something you'll want it more," for fat people in the world, diets don't work because you try to tell your mind what you can't have which makes you want it more, the same works with women, tell them you don't want them anymore, they want you even more.The Mystery Method is a superb club-hopping book, that if you go out Friday and Saturday every night, trying out the routine on every girl, every set of girls, in 3 to 6 months you can be getting laid on a regular basis (3 months for sure if you go out 4 mights a week). I weigh 260 pounds, I still have a little acne, I'm 22, and though I wouldn't credit this book with most of my success, I would credit it with something.The first thing I think guys need to do though is get rid of the limitting beliefs that are holding them back. Unstoppable Confidence by Kent Sayre is a great book to start with, Goodbye-to-Shy by Leil Lowndes is another. In fact, Leil Lowndes has several great books that all guys should check out. The fact is that what the PUA community does for guys is gives them a belief in themselves. When Mystery walks into a club, women come to him, not because he's done something special, but because he walks with the belief that any girl in there can be his. In the end the PUA community is giving guys the ability to fake it until they make it. They're being sent out into the world with routines they're told will help attract women and keep their attention. But the fact is, if you watch The Pick-Up Artist, women listened to those guys right from the beginning, the fact was that they lost their interest because the guys lost faith in themselves. If you believe the routine will work, it will work, and if you need this book to give you some basics, I highly recommend it. But the fact is, if you can gather enough faith in yourself to the point that (to quote Ross Jeffries book, How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed, a bad book that is great for the confidence building exorcises) You Will Not Make Excuses For Your Desires, You Will Not Make Excuses For Yourself, You Will Walk Through The World Without Apology, And You Will Not Worry About Setbacks Because They Are Learning Experiences, you will get beautiful women attracted to you, because, if you value yourself more than you value them, they will value you too.That's all it takes to have a high value. You must be the dictator of your own life. Don't let your life become a democracy. Don't seek approval. Don't be a dancing monkey for them. Don't be the lovable loser you see in movies. Be A MAN, America's running short on them. Women say they don't want men, they want gentlemen, but how's being that friend gone for you. Since I've stopped being friends to girls that I want to be with, and ignore them if they don't want to be with me, I've not only increased my self-respect, I've increased the respect that women see in me.P.S. Jan 19The more I look at the DHV principle, the more I dislike the books central theme. Mystery is not an Alpha Male, the men that take mystery's class is not an Alpha male, it's why he comes up with this display of higher value. I went through the book again, "Appear willing to walk away." A real Alpha Male is willing to walk away. If you want to be one of those people who wants to be a great gamer, who wants their life to be the game, being the most skilled at seducing women, then I guess this stuff will matter more. But, if you're interested in women. Don't be fake. Learn to be an actual man.

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Contrary to it's title, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed is more than just a book on how to get better with woman. It's a gateway into understanding, and manipulating, the fundamentals of human interaction. It's also a lifestyle and perspective changing book. I never expected that reading this book would lead me to a such a drastic life epiphany. As another reviewer pointed out, its like suddenly becoming aware of the matrix.Mystery gets into deep reasons behind why people behave the way they do, using evolutionary psychology and personal experience to back up his claims. As you digest the material you will start to be able to read and influence people like never before. You'll wonder how you could have missed so much.Mystery also devels into what it means to be truly be human and be alive. Again the goal of this book is to not just to get you better with woman but to have an overall better and more impactful life. To realize your own self worth and no longer allow your life to be hinged on the opinions and actions of others.However with all this knowledge you risk opening a can of worms. If your not careful you may lose yourself in the process and social interactions will feel less fulfilling and exciting. Mystery teaches you things that are unknown to 99% of the population, and you may at times wish you could unlearn things.However at the end of the day the wisdom, knowledge and insight you gain from reading this book far outweighs any negatives you might experience. If anything the skills you learn from this book will trickle into other areas of your life, and should you so choose, improve those areas drastically.I wouldn't recommend you reading mysterys book without first reading his colleagues Neil Strausses two books on the subject. "The Game" is what jump started the whole pickup industry and serves as a great intro to the community. It is more of story telling book. His other book "Rules Of The Game" is more of a how to book and the Style Life Challege section is meant to be a life changing program.Once you've read the aforementioned Strauss books, and completed the Style Life Challenge, you'll be more much more prepared for Mysterys techniques and insights. If the seduction community books were weighted on a scale Mystery's would be like a graduate level book, and your better of working your way up to it.But once you do, and you really began to understand and master Mysterys social dynamics and lifestyle changes you will not be disappointed. It will seem like you experience the world in an entire different and good way. Some people may even become jealous (a sign your doing good) and thanks to mystery you'll know how to handle those people. If done right you will find the best version of your self. And you'll actually be glad that your were socially awkward and sucked with the opposite sex. Because it lead you onto this road of self improvement and you'll find yourself "flying by" and suppressing the "naturals". Because you had to work hard to obtain something that came easy to others you left them in the dirt.Other essential books (if you have the time) to read is "No More Mr Nice Guy", "The Solution to Social Anxiety", "Modern Romance", "Text Appeal For Guys", "Survival of The S***test", "The Geeks Shall Inherit The Earth", "The Like Switch", "The Selfish Gene" & "The Rational Male" (volumes 1 & 2). Each of these books fits into the theme of self improvement, and understanding why people behave they way they do and how you should behave. And of course bettering your romance/game. Again I feel Mysterys Book is not meant to be read in a vacuum. It's a significant puzzle piece in finding the best "you" there is.The Mystery Method, as well as the aforementioned Strauss books, have been amoung the most influential in my life and for many other people as well. In hindsight I would have never thought that reading a few books on improving my skills with woman would lead to a lifestyle epiphany and change of such great proportion.My last piece of advice though would be to be careful who you share this knowledge with. When so many other people suck it makes it easier for you to stand out. A good magician, which is Mystery is, never reaveals their secrets.

Das Buch The Mystery Method ist ein angenehm zu lesendes Vergnügen, dass manchen Männern die Welt des Flirts endlich nahe bringt.Regelmäßig wird heutzutage über die weichen Männer und ihre Nichterfolge bei Frauen berichtet. Oft wird die Unerfahrenheit und Ängstlichkeit der Männer im Umgang mit Frauen hervorgehoben. Vielen Männer fehlen Vorbilder und männliche Rollenbeispiele in ihrem persönlichen Umfeld. Dies ist die Lücke, in die Mystery mit seinem Buch stößt.Der Autor Erik von Markovich, aka Mystery, beschreibt erfolgreiches Flirten in diesem Buch. Zunächst erläutert er dabei den evolutionären Antrieb der Menschen sich zu paaren und in welchen Dynamiken Gruppen funktionieren. Danach erläutert er die 9 Phasen, in die er einen Flirt einteilt und beschreibt diese dann in den einzelnen Kapiteln ausführlich. Seine eigene Geschichte beschreibt er als die eines schüchternen Bar Keepers, der es durch Training und Behaarlichkeit schaffte, ein Mensch mit hohem sozialen Ansehen und Fähigkeiten zu werden. In der Szene der Verführer haben er und seine Methode Kultstatus.Die Phasen des Flirts sind laut Mystery: Die Anfangsphase mit dem Ansprechen, Interesse wecken und sie sein Interesse ebenfalls gewinnen lassen, die Mittelphase mit persönlichen Gesprächtsthemen und zunehmendem Körperkontakt und die Endphase mit der Verführung zum Sex.Insgesamt ließt sich das Buch von Mystery sehr angenehm. Er baut viel Verführungstheorie ein, weiß diese aber lebhaft mit Geschichten aus seiner praktischen Erfahrung zu vermischen. Somit erhält man als Leser stärker das Gefühl, dass man selber auch das Ziel erreichen kann, regelmäßig Frauen zu verführen. Sehr hilfreich sind für den Leser zudem der systematische Aufbau des gesamten Flirt- und Verführungsprozesses und die vielen Beispielphrasen. Jeder Leser des Buches kann sich daraus ein hilfreiches Portfolio für den Flirt mit Frauen erstellen und um eigene, persönliche Beiträge erweitern. Das damit im realen Leben die Flirtfähigkeiten von Männern und ihr soziales Verständnis deutlich gesteigert werden können, habe ich schon persönlich miterlebt.Es gibt allerdings auch zwei negative Punkte, die ich nennen mag:1. Mystery beschreibt zu wenig die Wichtigkeit davon, in Gruppen zusammen zu lernen. Er macht zwar Vorschläge, wie man sich zu zweit zum Frauen ansprechen motivieren kann und welche Vorteile es im Gespräch hat, wenn man im Team arbeitet, doch meiner Meinung nach, gehört die Wichtigkeit eines Unterstützers noch viel stärker hervorgehoben. Gerade am Anfang des Lernprozess kann ein fordernder Unterstützer Gold wert sein und sämtliche Ausflüchte daheim zu bleiben zerstören und außerdem mit einem die Erfolge feiern.2. Es kann immer noch sehr sehr viel an Arbeit an der eigenen Psyche und den eigenen Ängsten notwendig sein, um sich in sozialen Umfelden wohl zu fühlen. Das kann Monate bis Jahre dauern. Auch hier ist die Unterstützung von anderen Menschen sehr hilfreich, um eigene soziale Ängste regelmäßig zu konfrontieren und zu überwinden.Das Buch The Mystery Method ist also, zusammenfassend gesagt, ein Buch, das vielen Männern ein hilfreiches Werkzeug beim erlernen vom Flirten sein kann. Wie viele andere Bücher entfaltet es seine volle Wirkung in der korrekten Anwendung. Dazu zählen die regelmäßiger Anwendung der Techniken, die Reflexion der Flirts und auch das gemeinsame erlernen mit Mentoren oder Gleichgesinnten. Wer dies befolgt kann in der Tat innerhalb von 6-12 Monaten beachtliche Fortschritte in seinen Fähigkeiten zu flirten und Menschen für sich zu gewinnen feststellen.