The Queen's Code Paperback – June 28, 2013

This book will only improve your relationships. It such a refreshing and beautiful story that can make you emotional and challenge you to think about your own views. I’m so grateful to have come across this book

I highly recommend this book, but I recommend that you first read "the Keys to the Kingdom" because it explains some fundamentals about men that will help make sense of what is taught in this book. The way the story is told in "the Queen's Code" is a continuation of the story that began in "The Keys to the Kingdom"I know several reviews mentioned that this book could have been shorter and written more straight to the point, and yes, that is true However, her writing does have a purpose in that it unravels current belief systems to make room for new belief systems. I don't think that would be possible with a more concise straight to the point writing style.When I was researching the book I stumbled upon a PDF document that took notes on this book, "The Queen's Code." I read through the notes and thought to myself "I already know all of this stuff, so this book isn't going to help me at all."I read "Keys to the Kingdom" instead and I am glad that I did, because I learned a lot and it ended up inspiring me to purchase "The Queen's Code."As I was reading "The Queen's Code" I revisited the PDF with the notes, and suddenly I understood the meaning behind the notes. One example is being open, receptive and vulnerable. Most women know that already and we have an idea of what that might mean and look like from a woman's point of view, but we really don't know what that means from a man's point of view, what being open, receptive and vulnerable does to a man, and what kind of openness, receptiveness and vulnerability men desire.Please don't brush this off as "I know what being open, receptive and vulnerable means." If you've had little success in fulfilling relationships with men, then you truly don't know what being open, receptive and vulnerable means from a man's perspective (amongst other things) and you may benefit from the refreshing perspective and explanation this book offers, along with "The Keys to the Kingdom"You're most likely here because you want something to change and get better, but may not now how, and most of the time, what you're resistant to is most likely going to challenge your core beliefs, and perhaps your core beliefs are the reason you ended up searching for a solution to begin with.My guess is that at this point, you don't have much else to lose and just want things to get better. In that case, I highly recommend you start with "The Keys to the Kingdom" (and please ignore the neutral and negative reviews to that book) and then continue with the "Queen's Code." They complement each other in a beautiful way and work together hand in hand to improve your relationships with men. Please give them a try 🤍I promise, you will have a shift in perspective & understanding of men, and a shift in behavior, which will positively impact your relationship with men in general.

This should be mandatory for every woman to read! Don’t wait, dive in with your whole heart, you won’t regret it!

This book may have *saved my relationship* within 8 hours of my starting the book, and I'm only 15% of the way through it!!First, let me qualify my background, and why I bought this book:I'm an expert on men.No, really.Oh sure, lots of people may say that, but I actually mean that I am a professional expert on men. No, I'm not a lady of the evening, I'm something much lower than that - I'm a lawyer. In fact, I was one of the very first fathers' rights lawyers in the United States, with a career spanning about 30 years working with single fathers, and a *lot* of that was counselling and coaching them. So, I got, very early on, how men communicate, filter, react, share, bottle up (did I mention react) *much* differently than women, and how the translation that takes place between "she speaks, he hears" and "he speaks, she hears" is *so very vital to understand*! (Oh yeah, I'm also an author of a book on men - and coach about the differences between men and women - specifically for single fathers.)I'm also very familiar with what our society is doing to our boys (and causing our women and girls to do to our boys - have you ever seen the "Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them" products? No? Here you go: Boys Are Stupid Throw Rocks At Them t-shirt Think you could get away with a "girls are stupid, throw rocks at them" product line?)I actually heard about this book from a friend who was basically mocking it. That made me curious, so I came to Amazon to look it up. And, based on my work with men, and advocacy for boys, when I saw *men* posting reviews, saying things like "I have to say that this book blew my mind. Having a feminist mother and growing up in a time when men have been looked down upon for being men, I grew up knowing masculine shame," I knew I had to get it and read it.I have to tell you it was *so* refreshing to read another woman who gets it! And who gets that by trying to make men be like women we are not only doing a disservice to men, and screwing up our boys, but that we are doing a disservice to *ourselves* (women). By *honouring* the differences, it allows men to also honour *our* differences.But much more importantly, in this book Armstrong really explains how what we do to men is causing *us* (again, women) so much frustration, resentment, and anger, and robbing us of the joy *we ourselves* can experience.No, this is *not* a Dr. Laura-esque "wrap yourself in saran wrap and submit to your man" book. Not at all. It's a "understand the differences, and speak to his strengths instead of bitching about his weaknesses - which are often *your* perception of 'weakness', and not really a weakness at all - it's a *difference*" book.(Ok, I feel like I'm getting on a soapbox now...let me climb back down (I'm only 5'3, so I need that soapbox).)What is interesting about this book is that rather than a typical "do this, do that" tome, it's a narrative told in the form of a story. Sure, some of it is a little hokey ("frog farmer"? Really?) but the brilliance of this is that it gets the point across in a way that isn't all "do this, do that" or preachy.So, I got the book last night, and started reading it. I got about 15% of the way through (got the Kindle edition, that's how I know). Then I put out the light and went to sleep.This morning, I had a conversation with TMWMITU (The Most Wonderful Man in the Universe). It was a conversation - about a potentially touchy subject - which could have gone very, *very* wrong. But, as the conversation was unfolding I suddenly remembered the things I'd read last night...and ohmygod...this was *exactly* that sort of situation. So I took a deep breath, and practiced what I'd read just 8 hours earlier. Which blew me away because, in case I haven't mentioned it, I've been working in this field for nearly 30 years. But that's the magic of this book - you read it like a story, and it sticks in your head for when you need it.And guess what? ...TAHDAH! What *could* have been an awful, even relationship-ending conversation, instead went down the path of a *fantastic* conversation, with a wonderful resolution, and me feeling closer to him and happier than ever! (Now, wouldn't you like to feel that way?? If your answer is "no", then I submit that you need this book even more, because you may well be holding on to a lot of resentment, and self-righteous anger.)Because this book is truly right in my own wheelhouse of my expertise, I sincerely invite any of you to drop me a line (click on my name and "see more" to find my email address) and ask me any question that you may have, and that you think I could be helpful in answering.

This is definitely one of the best books I've read this year! The author does an excellent job of explaining the differences between men and women. This book has changed my life and completely altered my perspective on relationships! I could read it again and again.

Some concepts really dig deep and make you think. The language is easy. But it's written a bit like a infomercial.. though the storyline is nice.

It’s all about respecting each other in a relationship and this book points out it’s also about respecting differences ….Cooperation and collaboration and give and takeYou become a team in a marriage or partnershipIt’s not all about you!Don’t do it …. Get married….if you can’t accept that!!