Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free Kindle Edition

I recently heard about Dr. Martin’s work via Chris Ryan’s podcast, Tangentially Speaking, and immediately bought the book upon publication. I was riveted from the start, and found it hard to put down. The research that Martin describes is validating of many of my own and my friend’s experiences, some paradoxical: high desire, loss of libido in committed relationships, loss of libido after having children, wanting sexual freedom despite being in happy marriages, and experiencing firsthand the intimate connection between autonomy and desire. I really appreciate the fact that she — like the movie Monogamish — doesn’t endorse any particular relationship style, and doesn’t share her own, because ultimately it’s up to each person to decide what’s right for them. I appreciate her attempt at leveling the playing field by highlighting the deep hypocrisy that surrounds societal attitudes towards male v. female sexualities. This book is a good companion to Ryan and Jetha’s Sex at Dawn, but goes into greater detail about the effects that different types of agriculture had on gender power dynamics as well as more details about Bonobo sexuality and female aggression. I also appreciated her in-depth look at some positive and sustainable examples of alternative relationship styles. We need more of those. I’m passing this book to my husband now.

I think Wednesday read 50 Shades of Gray and got an idea to write a book.Science, a healthy understanding of physiology, spiritual health nor history supports the idea of unbridled eros leading our sexual practices.Those that live the longest have monogamous heterosexual realtionships. How did you miss those studies?!I already lived thru the sexual revolution and in my opinion it was a failure as it produced nothing to benifit society but only served to gratify ones narcissistic desires! Some half baked science certainly doesn't justify another movement of like kind.BTW, young people who have more access to porn and sex then we ever did growing up are anxious, and feel hopeless...thats from real studies and science and should be of much greater concern then our failed and tainted selfish pursuits!

Having just finished the book Sapiens a few weeks ago, I knew that the switch from hunter-gathering to agriculture was “the greatest crime in history,” according to the author. But he did not parse the catastrophic effect by gender; Wednesday Martin does, and you will never think of the word “plough” the same way again. You’ll never think about many things the same way after reading this book. Some of my fellow mid-to-late-middle-aged friends, when hearing or reading about Untrue, say they don’t want to read about infidelity as if the book is endorsing it, which it is not. What the book is advocating for is the closing of the sexual entitlement gap. The scientific research is as entertainingly presented as the cultural observations, and the conclusions derived from both are astonishing.

If you’ve been a fan of the TED talk stars and bestsellers Chris Ryan (Sex at Dawn) and Esther Perel (Mating in Captivity, The State is Affairs) this is the other puzzle piece you were looking for.I’ve actually decided to host a book club about Untrue next week and some friends are starting to give me feedback on how the reading is transforming the way they think about their own sexuality and their life choices in general.I hope you don’t get discouraged by the one star reviews and give this amanzing well-researched brilliantly-written book a try.Just keep this in mind: “The truth will set you free... but first it might piss you off.” Enjoy!

I heard about the book from Open Love 101 (John & Jackie Melfi), and since I have always been fascinated with, and about, females in general, I wanted to read it to get another perspective on the feminine side of sexuality. This book walks you through a LOT of research and real-life interviews, and comparative analysis with primates like the Bonbos, who have a 99% DNA match to humans.I wouldn't call it a sexually explicit book by any means, but there are a lot of sexual discussions in terms of the interviews that were conducted, but they were done in a tasteful way without explicit sexual details... at least not in the book. I can only imagine all of what Wednesday Martin may have learned or discussed that didn't actually get included.As a man, reading this book, I do consider it very eye-opening in terms of understanding the more general feminine sexuality, but it is by no means a "how-to" manual for what is going to work in every situation. I think the biggest takeaway from it, is that EVERY relationship needs to be open about their wants, needs, expectations, etc... from the VERY beginning... to avoid some catastrophic failure years down the road where you may have brought children into the world and thus further complicating what may have become an already complicated relationship.I would definitely recommend this to any open-minded (or close-minded for that matter) man, and EVERY woman, because it may give each a light-bulb moment to realize they are not alone or unique in whatever feelings they may be experiencing in their respective relationships.

Part of a groundswell of new thinking on sex and gender roles. Backed up with as good facts as possible given the limited social sharing in this area(and that’s part of the point of the book. )A great read neither prurient nor overly factual.

This is a rehash of a lot of good books, but not written as well as those books. I found my self wondering why the author wrote this book; research was weak, the teases of vulnerability never materialized and I found myself disappointed in a lazy review of other well-written material. Read Sex at Dawn, then read Opening Up, Ethical Slut and Esther Perel's first book, Mating In Captivity, all very well written and deeply thoughtful books. Skip this one.

While the book does present some interesting science and stories, it does not live up to the hype of a book about the science of female sexuality that overturns the mainstream science on its head. Martin is another example of a feminist who sets up a strawman of what mainstream science says about female sexuality: that women are not interested in casual sex and only cheat when they are unhappy in a relationship. She then attempts to present science by various feminist researchers and other rebels that are challenging this narrative. Unfortunately, if she had just read the updated and revised version of David Buss' classic text 'The evolution of desire' - the key book on human sexuality - she would have realised a few important things. For one, there are evolutionary hypotheses for why some women will cheat even though they are happy in their relationship. Secondly, the findings she reports are not inconsistent with these hypotheses. People new to the subject will think it is full of interesting revelations, but those educated on the mainstream science, will recognise this just misrepresents the really good work that has been done on female sexuality and offers nothing surprising. I would not recommend. Read Buss instead.

This book is a game changer. I am beyond glad I bought it. It is helping me understand myself better and it answers the kinda questions many women are often too afraid to ask for fear of judgment. Ladies, this is compulsory reading whether you are 18 or 80. Do yourself (and the females in your life) a favour and buy this ASAP. You will not regret it.

Excellent book! Very interesting researches and easy to read.

OK read, I'm not really a fan.

I found myself skimming through trying to bypass the writers incessant need to share for example what was on the menu for lunch or what clothes to wear. Much is written in a style akin to novels. This read did not meet my expectations.