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title: "How to Be Alone: If You Want to, and Even If You Don't"
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# How to Be Alone: If You Want to, and Even If You Don't

**Brand:** lane moore
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How to Be Alone: If You Want to, and Even If You Don't

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5.0 out of 5 stars







  
  
    Love, recognition and solidarity for those who feel alone
  

*by S***N on Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 8 November 2018*

I loved this book so hard. It is beautiful and raw and rings true in a way that made my heart hurt (because some of these feelings are soul level sad) but also sing (because it’s not just me...there is at least one other person who feels like this?!) It’s written as if the best friend you always wished for is talking to you directly in a 3 am heart to heart that has you saying ‘me too!!’ and ‘I thought I was the only person who felt like that’ and ‘I’ve waited so long to hear someone else gets that too!’ while you tear up but then snort-laugh as songs you loved but forgot play quietly in the background.It’s so tender and compassionate and real. It looks at feeling alone, unloved and disconnected, at how to bear the burden of that aching for love and a safe place to be yourself, longing for a community, a tribe, your ‘person’ - SOMEONE - who sees you and gets you and loves your open, unabashed and imperfect human heart.I believe that there are many people who feel this pain; the pain of a family of origin that failed you, of friendships and relationships that broke your heart and of trying to keep hope alive and hold yourself together. Perhaps we could all find each other and become one another’s ‘people’ one day and watch over each other and support one another; to finally be loved as we all deserve to be. Until that dream can be realised, Lane Moore has written a book that makes you feel seen, understood, emotionally stripped bare, yes, but also held and comforted. And if you feel as alone as Lane admits she has and as many of us often do, that kinship and comfort is no small thing.(Also there are fun discussions of a number of killer 90’s movies, Jim from The Office and a might-just-save-your-life guide to getting through the holidays)

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5.0 out of 5 stars







  
  
    Poweful, resonates so deeply, already recommending to everyone I know.
  

*by B***1 on Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 14 January 2021*

This book had me sobbing deeply by the end but in the best way possible. I'm so grateful to have discovered Lne Moore and as someone working in mental health who works closely with people struggling with the pandemic of loneliness, I am so happy to have this piece of art to share with them. I can't wait to see what Ms Moore brings out next. Whatever it is, I know I'll be a lifelong fan.This is not a light self help book.  It is a deep, gut wrenching memoir but with so much hope throughout, teaching all of us who feel without family or secure community that we are not alone, and that this is not a destiny despite whatever we have been through to make us feel isolated.  There's also excellent explanation of scientifically backed Attachment Theory and how it plays into our adult relationships.I read about 40 books a year, about 60% in the realm of psychology for my work, and this has moved me like no ther in the past few years.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ 4.0 out of 5 stars







  
  
    Painful, raw - but could be triggering for those with anxiety
  

*by E***D on Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 23 February 2019*

I was recced this book by Captain Awkward, and I'm very glad I got to read parts of it, even if I was unable to finish the entire book. The pain and feeling Lane expresses in this book come across very honestly, and quite brutally. She flips between humour and pain as she writes, occasionally in the same paragraph, and you never know whether you should be laughing or crying. She links her past trauma with her current actions, and explains why her contemporary behaviors stems from it, and for the most part her writing is fairly accessible. She writes as someone with anxiety or depression would write, and I'd very much recommend it to someone looking to understand the reasoning behind how traumatized and depressed/anxious people think and act.That being said, I couldn't finish the book. In some parts Lane, although writing honestly, seems to be documenting her anxiety spirals, and continuously validates and de-validates her feelings in the ramble, and doesn't necessarily separate what is coming from her trauma and what is a good approach to mental illness. For example, in the first three pages Lane uncritically lists the reasons as to Why She Can't Call Anyone In Her Contacts List For Help Ever. My brain, upon reading that, simultaneously began shouting "LANE THAT'S ANXIETY-SLASH-DEPRESSION" while frantically trying to bury my own trauma-induced anxiety, which decided to resurrect itself and yell "HELLO I AM BACK AND I HAVE BEEN  V A L I D A T E D." Lane talks about wanting to care for and look after her younger self, but her older self is in need of just as much care and safe spaces. The anxiety spirals were unfortunately what meant I had to stop reading, since they kept triggering my own anxiety - please consider this a content warning.This book doesn't teach you how to handle loneliness. What it is is a painful, raw essay, where Lane reaches out to others who may feel this way, in an attempt to make us all feel less lonely.

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