Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) Paperback – September 1, 2015

This book completely changed how I look at conversations. It gives you easy tools to speak with kindness, really listen, and avoid misunderstandings. Super practical and helpful in everyday life.The book was clean when i took it out of the packaging so i am happy for that!!

I got this on Audible a couple weeks ago and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the book...so I bought it on kindle, too! I listened to the entire book within a day or so, and I started implementing the techniques on the first day! It made it so much easier to figure out what I really wanted out of sticky relationship situations, communicate in a way that is in line with my values, and not feel so bad if I receive venom in return (though usually these techniques nip the issues in the bud). The author's narration is perfect. A lot of the information seems intuitive...yet it does take work! - because, sadly, many if not most of us grow up in an environment with distorted social constructs, violence, and trauma. It takes a bit of "un-learningI have read dozens of "self-help" books and other resources on psychology, mental health, and relationships. Some of these were woo-woo fluff which missed the point, others were more specific to certain types of conflicts.....really they all say the same things from different perspectives... Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communication: A language of life" is one of the books that stands on a shelf of its own, and one that I will surely revisit over time. The book lays things out clearly and simply (comprehensively). It's refreshingly un-biased. It provides practical tips and examples of how to execute NVC so that everyone's needs get met and we move toward harmony/real connection. There's a basic framework to NVC: observe without evaluation, feeling, need, request. NVZ is hard work, but it's a valuable skill!Nonviolent Communication is a great resource for anyone new to non-violent communication. I think this book is also an excellent "refresher" book for those Jedis out there who want to brush up on their communication skills while working on emotional intelligence and self-awareness. If you've ever been stuck in a victim/bully situation, co-dependency, any form of interpersonal abuse or trauma...or not - I think most if not all people can benefit from reading this book! - then you may find the information in this book to be healing and empowering (also humbling). Best wishes for your process of building a peaceful life, relationships, and personal autonomy :-)

Yeah so chapter 1: we have feelings because we have needs... yes of course but ... who ever thinks about this. Book is full of intuitive & basic things that aren't obvious until pointed out. It's like a human user manual. Of course, everything we do is communication & we only exist in existence with others so effective communication is the backbone of human existence. This book reads like a negotiation text book & should be required reading in law school. I'm an attorney. I wish we'd read this in the first year of law school. It's applicable to all communication & reads also like a spiritual guidebook. I'm very much into those too. You can't really separate high vibration living in terms of professional vs personal ... to quote a very cool Los Angeles pastor I once negotiated a lease deal with: "you is who you is." And who we are always comes down to how we made others feel. Our success as humans in every way depends on this. They may not remember what you said or did, but they always remember how you made them feel. At the core of this concept is how we communicate, and that stems from how we feel. I realized recently in a difficult personal relationship that I should just shut up & work inside myself if I'm feeling triggered. If you ever communicate with others ... and wish for your relationships or your results to be more satisfying, this is a very valuable read. My brother recommended it to me over breakfast. He's a good honest man with very open and authentic communication. I understand I've struggled in this area, tending to circle around inside myself, isolate or run, so I finally got around to picking up this gem.

Every page contained thoughtful ways to practice compassion. It also made me teary eyed because of the many examples of phrases we say that we unwittingly say that may hurt ourselves and others for many years. My biggest take away is how have better language that can share my needs while helping others meet their needs to. I appreciate that I don’t need to compromise and feel like I am giving up on my own needs. The most difficult lesson has been how to unlearn years of demand, obligation and feeling lonely because I could not communicate my needs better with co passion and grace. We all need this book. It is a step by step guide to discover us more and have more self love so that we can give love to others more genuinely.